I’ve really been contemplating the whole issue of “God won’t give you more than handle”. We find a similar phrase in 1 Corinthians 10:13 which in the NIV reads “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up against it.”
Interesting. We are not promised a life phase, a life situation that is more than we can bear. We are promised in the face of temptation that God won’t “set us up for failure” by not giving us a way out of the temptation.
My friend, Brenda, has heard this phrase until she can’t bear to hear it anymore. Last spring Brenda’s husband was given a bill of excellent health. A month or so later he was is the hospital dying. Three weeks later he was gone. And people tell her “God won’t give you more than you can bear.” And Brenda says, “THIS is more than I can bear! I don’t want to bear this!”
We have had a difficult time adjusting to life with a foreign exchange student and people tell me “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” I have heard that so much I’ve responded, “The next person to tell me that will be punched in the face.” It is neither biblical nor true.
The beauty of Christianity is we realize we can’t do life on our own. We know that life is more than we can bear. But more than that we find Someone who is willing to bear it for us.
We have a Savior who says, “Honey, this rough spot is for your good. I will make sure you get through it. You have a choice, you can go through it with me or you can choose to shut me out and go it alone. Either way I’m here.”
No one can bear life a lone. No one. We aren’t islands. We aren’t rocks. We need. We need Jesus.