We all dream of a happy marriage. We grow up dreaming about the person we’ll marry, what they’ll be like, how we’ll spend our “happily ever after”.
Problems arise when what we fantasize about doesn’t mesh with our reality. When married life is harder than we thought it would be. We become disillusioned and unhappy. We watch other couples and wonder what their secret is. Why is their marriage so much happier than ours? What did they do, and what are they doing to make it better?
Shaunti Feldhahn has written a book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, that addresses this very issue. How can we be happy in our marriages? If we are happy, can we be happier?
Shaunti interviewed dozens of couples, categorized them in three camps, Very Happy, Happy and Struggling Couples. She passes on their secrets.
Only guess what, they aren’t really secrets. And they aren’t hard. But they all require thought, intention, and determination to love our spouse regardless of how our spouse acts.
In places the book seemed a bit more clinical than I like. But if that is the extent of my dislikes of the book it is indeed a good book.
If your marriage could use a little more happy, even if your marriage is already happy, this book could be just for you.
(I received a free copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of review. All opinions are my own.)